|“I must learn to love the fool in me–the one who feels too much, talks too much, takes too many chances, wins sometimes and loses often, lacks self-control, loves and hates, hurts and gets hurt, promises and breaks promises, laughs and cries. It alone protects me against that utterly self-controlled, masterful tyrant whom I also harbor and who would rob me of my human aliveness, humility, and dignity but for my Fool.”|
Theodore Isaac Rubin (born 1923);
How true, Doctor Rubin. We all must!
Perhaps if we do this before having children or by the time they’re four-months old, we can help out children do that, too. I suspect many mothers wonder whether or not they’ve done a good job in raising our children. Most of the time, I’m certain I did not a good job, but a great one. My children are now adults with whom I love to spend time!
But sometimes I hear their insecurities, the fact that they don’t love every part of themselves. Or wish they were different. And then I think… this was an area where I was not mindful. Oh, I told them they were smart, beautiful/handsome, funny… but I would welcome thoughts on how to help a child to do exactly what Dr. Rubin proposes…
Will you help me? What do you think helps to build self-love in our children?
© Melissa Pazen, 2013